For a while now I’ve struggled with the fact that I’m single, lonely, and alone. I am someone who enjoys people, affection, and companionship. For the life of me, I cannot figure out why I haven’t found that “someone” yet. I am upset with God for making me ponder my worth and questioning his intentions. It wasn’t until this year that I realized what God’s master plan was and why He was doing it. Now, I have a feeling that I’m not alone in this situation so I’m hoping to change at least one other person’s perspective with this blog post today.
How can I love someone else fully when the first thing my mind jumps to is, “why am I not good enough?” and “what am I doing wrong?” when God doesn’t answer my prayers. How can I expect God to put someone in my life to enjoy my time with when I can’t seem to even enjoy my time with Him? How can I expect God to reward me with things when I have not done things for Him? These are the things you and I have to remind ourselves when we start questioning His ultimate plan and our unanswered prayers. Instead of always questioning and always being irritated we must change our habits to help guide our intentions the right way. These are some ways to treat God as your significant other and teach your mind to always put Him first.
- Spend your time with Him. If you had a significant other you’d be texting, calling, and facetiming them whenever and wherever. Do this with God and see how much more accompanied you feel. If you’re walking to class, start a conversation with Him about what you’re thankful for, what you’re worried about, or someone you’re thinking about. Schedule time and days with Him like you would a significant other to get excited about your time together. It doesn’t have to be long and it doesn’t have to be fancy just showing up and interacting is the basic necessities.
- Share your joys, cast your worries, and rest your burdens on Him. Nothing can make two people closer than sharing everything together. When you start sharing all of these things with Him you’ll start to feel the connection and your loneliness will start diminishing. You’ll feel loved, you’ll feel heard, and you’ll feel at peace; just like you would if you shared your life with a significant other.
- Make Him a top priority. This one can be tricky since our day to day lives are so chaotic and busy but try and make spending time with Him something that is really important to you. Whether this time is 5 minutes, 15 minutes or an hour just make the time. Doing this reminds you that you’re not alone and that even though you don’t have a boyfriend/girlfriend you do have someone special. Take this time and cherish it.
- Pray for Him to fill you with His love. When I feel that I’m struggling with feeling His love or I’m starting to question His plan, I pray. I pray that He fills my heart with His love and that when I start to doubt Him, He brings me back to the mindset that He has a plan. Ask Him to help you change your habits and give you grace when you fail to do so.
These are just a few things but hopefully, you get the concept! Once I started doing this my heart stopped longing for someone to fill my emptiness and it started filling with the love I have for Him. I’m not going to sugarcoat it, this mindset takes a long time to get to and sometimes I still struggle! But the progress is worth it and the harder you try, the easier it will be.